And...ACTION!
Look no further! I've figured out a fool proof plan to Excite your Life and it costs you absolutely nothing and there's no moving involved (unless you so choose). The following is my quick tutorial on how to completely change your life in 2 simple steps.
1. Remove something that you use/do regularly for at least a month. (Chances are you have forgotten how to appreciate that thing.)
2. Reintroduce that thing/action back into your life. (Presto! It is now the most amazing thing ever.)
Simple, right? Let me give you a few simple scenarios you might be able to relate to. Have you ever...went camping and were unable to shower or use a toilet for days...had the power go out in your home...had your friend "borrow" something for months...had a best friend disappear to go find themselves...went to another country that is vastly more destitute than where you're from...lost your phone, bike, favorite pair of shoes, etc. and then found them...heard a song you haven't heard in ages that reminds you of the good times. I'm sure at least one of these things has happened to you in life and it always ends in euphoria and appreciation. I'm pretty sure you catch my drift.
So how exactly does something so simple work, you ask? Well I think we as humans are built to want more. Excitement and adrenaline feel good. We like new things. There should be variety and spice to life to keep things interesting. Even in just looking at the way life works...the ups and downs and twists and turns...things aren't meant to stay the same forever. It keeps things fresh and new and there's always something to look forward to. Not to mention, we need change to grow.
I find the human mind is quite the fascinating little place to be sometimes. It's supposed to be the place where everything flows from, our control center, yet so many times we seem so far from being able to control it. In my opinion the biggest blessing and biggest curse in this, is our ability to forget. It's bad in the sense that we grow accustomed to things/people and take them for granted. But it's great when facing those seasons of pain/hurt/loss. There is truth to the statement distance makes the heart grow fonder...but away for too long and you tend to forget what you were missing. There is a fine line. Basically the simple answer to the original question is, time changes things in brain land.
Now, I challenge you to pour a bucket of ice water...CUT! I'm sorry, that was last month's tag line. :) Let's try this again.
I challenge you to try my little 2 step to Excite your Life program and tell me how it works for you. Hell, if your really ballsy, do this with multiple things at a time! You might discover something fresh, become grateful for what you have, maybe even do things you never thought possible, or realize something was a huge waste of time and find it's replacement. One thing I can guarantee is life will seem new, and you will always have something to look forward to, appreciate, and work towards. Hurry now! Don't wait! This offer will only last as long as you remember it.
And...THAT'S A WRAP!
I enjoyed your blog and, as usual, it got me thinking about taking things for granted and failing to appreciate what we have until they are no longer there. Yes, we tend to 'miss' things that are missing. In our human relations,often when we take a hiatus from another person, when we put physical distance and allow the passage of time, we begin to see that person from a different perspective, as if stepping out of the bull ring to really see the bull and without fear of getting gored; as in our inability to see the trees for the forrest. When we are too close, our perception can become miopic. It takes that distance in space and time to allow us to take away all the layers of obfuscation, all that it is incomprehensible and senseless and confusing; it takes that different perspective to begin to see that person crystal clear. to understand that person, and perhaps even sometimes we let go of emotions that are not sustainable. Sometimes separation bring people closer when they realize that being apart is the last thing they want. Sometimes the hiatus can deceive us into thinking that things are different. Separation, gives us hope, hope that this person has changed, or perhaps that we have changed, and we reintroduce ourselves only to realize that certain things don't change. Although we grow and evolve slowly, real transformation is rare, because we are creatures of habit. But it does not mean that changes cannot occur after a long separation, because they do, if only because we have hope and perhaps learned form our previous mistakes.
ReplyDeleteThere is much to be said about separation, sometimes a permanent one, as when we lose our mother or our father, or as in my case, both parents within three weeks. After the horrible sense of loss, after the mourning, after that sense of permanence which never goes away, we begin to think about our relationship with our parents. What would I have done differently? Was I a good son?
I know I would have told them how much I loved them and showed them my love much more often. What I have learned is that we need to express our love, say I love you when you mean it. Never shy away from saying it, because afterall, what is life without love? life is about love, and life is joyous when you love. There is no sense in keeping your emotions to yourself because no one will benefit. So say "I love you" and make somebody smile!
and on that thread . . . perhaps we should make a note and tell our loved ones and spouses, that we will no longer say " I love you" as a matter of habit. How many times do we say "I love you" and respond "I love you too" when we really not in the mood to say it? How meaningful is it then? Make it precious.
ReplyDeleteSay that we will say "I love you"when we really feel it and mean it. This way when they hear it, they will really know that you mean it and then it will MEAN something to them. Just an after thought.