Why are there love stories? I'm not talking about the made up movie ones...I'm talking about the real life ones. The kinds that are against all odds...where people take chances that the majority of the world wouldn't take and it ends up in their favor. There's supposed to be a logical world of dating. Step 1: you meet. Step 2: you hang out and get to know one another. Step 3: you decide whether the information you've gathered is favorable or not to progress further. Should you make it past step 3 with a yes then comes the serious talk, meeting of the family/friends, moving in, marriage, babies, and all that mess. But what about the relationships that don't follow that route? Is there such a thing as fate or divine intervention?
All my life I've been following a pattern to dating. Through my experiences and various friend's experiences I've set rules to my dating scene. Now I'm not trying to say that one shouldn't have certain rules...I definitely believe each and every person should know what they want and seek to find it. But I'm saying, after years of having the same rules, sometimes you need to stop and re-evaluate them. There are certain things a person should or shouldn't allow in their lives for sure but it all depends on the person and their ability to deal with certain situations. And it all stems from what we have experienced, been taught, and ultimately believe.
In having a conversation recently I was reminded of the logical pattern of dating. The person I was speaking with said something along the lines that certain people depending on their past were not meant for me. I, of course, disagreed knowing I'm not a perfect person and could have just as easily been in a number of bad situations that by the grace of God I've mostly avoided. And then it dawned on me...that my pattern I've been following was scientifically based on perfect people in a perfect world. The reality is that we are imperfect people in an imperfect world and it's no wonder my relationships have never worked out. I never had the correct equation because the variables available didn't fit into it. So upon this realization I completely revamped my dating equation and opened it up to allow taking chances and to go where my gut leads. So back to the question, what happens when you take a chance and do things cuz you feel you should but it's in a seemingly illogical order? You could crash and burn or...you might get one of those crazy love stories. I think the possibility of the latter is worth the risk.
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