Reeling Back in From Uncharted Territory

So I’m really beginning to love sleeping. So much in fact that if anyone asks me what my favorite activity is at this moment in time, I would have to say hands down…sleeping. Not only do I get the best ideas and realizations of things right before I drift off to sleep (this also happens in the shower if you’ve read any of my earlier posts), but best of all…I get to dream. Thus far in the past week I’ve rescued a homeless puppy and in turn found a new friend/pet; I’ve wrestled with wolves twice, won, and saved my townspeople; and last night I was in some kind of Mario tree top land in the clouds, took an elevator up through the unfinished roof of a building (because of course the elevator said 100 floors when they only had 66 of them completed), shot into the sky, came plummeting down like I was sky diving, and landed onto a rooftop flat on my back, unscathed. You can’t do those things in real life (except maybe the rescue the homeless puppy…but they are never as cute as the one in my dream). Lol But if I believe I can fly in my dreams…by George, I’m gonna go ahead and do it. Which very roughly leads me to my point of discussion today...
My friend and I were discussing the topic of why do we believe what we believe, and he asked me to post it up and see what people had to say. At first, I thought it was a simple question and I answered for myself “cuz it’s logical, has been tested, and is the truth as I see it at the moment…because it’s good for myself and everyone universally.” But then he explained more.
He said “Yes, that is the way it is for you. But people have different motivations for believing in certain things, and I think it’s important to evaluate our motivations and the why’s of the beliefs we subscribe to…because our thoughts dictate our beliefs, and our beliefs dictate our behavior.”
Then I was thinking about it all together and dreaming seems so easy…you believe…then you do it…no questions asked. When you stop and think about it, I find life is much the same way. What we actually believe, we show in our actions…no matter what we say we believe, our actions will always speak what we have built the bricks of our life on and thus actually believe. (Side note: stay tuned for my brick theory in an upcoming post). But how often do we analyze what we say/think we believe and how our actions match up to that? I think we’ll all find that we have been telling ourselves things for years that we don't truly believe. So take a moment and stop and think about what you actually believe about this life and how it works and why you actually believe those things. I’m curious to see the different responses and if they are any different than what you thought they would be. :)

Shower Realization Part Deux

Shower realization part 2: (ok I'm lying...I didn't realize this in the shower.) Just thinking how nice it would be to be at a place with everyone that we could be 100 % honest and not prejudge the reaction we think we are going to get from someone when the full truth is told. By not speaking the full truth, we never allow ourselves a clear conscience and develop habits in the wrong direction. Where then is the common line where we don't lie? Also this never allows the other person an opportunity or proper chance/choice to react, stealing from their own possible growth, and possible growth and bond between you and that person's relationship. Truth, even when it hurts, makes relationships stronger when it involves healthy/mature people. It is not easy as it sounds as habits are formed over a long time, but I can promise the more you challenge yourself, the easier it will become. I'm certainly not judging anyone, just stating some things to remind us all to think before we speak as that's what happens to be in the playground of my mind today. Plus I've gotta write down things while I can when I'm in thinky mode. Only happens so often. It just irks me so, when people omit things and bend the truth to avoid hurting others feelings. I get why they do it...I mean it's much easier to avoid admitting faults and hurting someone you care about especially when it's something so seemingly insignificant. And in all honesty, we all do it from time to time. Sometimes because we care about someone immensely and don't want to hurt them (but we all know the truth has a way of being found out), sometimes because we are weak, and still sometimes because we believe that many people are too immature to hear the truth. But it shouldn't be up to you or I to judge that. Instead shouldn't it be our responsibility to tell the truth and give that person the choice on how to take it? Then you are free and clear because the truth will always be the truth and there can be no argument about it. Then feelings are allowed to be truly what they are. Thus truth begets truth, and contrarily lies beget lies. Thoughts?

Shower Realization Part 1

So I'm in the shower this morning and I had another fancy realization of mine. (I don't know why I always have these epiphany's in the shower...maybe the sound of water is relaxing, or it's cuz there's no distractions and I can be alone with my thoughts...who knows! Maybe I'll have a realization of why my realizations are always in the shower but until then onto my point.) So I'm standing there thinking, you know how when you break up with someone, usually the first thing out of people's mouth's is you deserve better...blah blah blah...and the other person's friends are most likely telling them the same thing. Well...I realized that we are all missing the point about relationship. Love is not about what someone deserves...it's more about what someone doesn't deserve...that's when you can prove it's existence in action. Love is not ever going to be an equal effort action. It wasn't made to be that way. We should stop trying to force it to fit into a box it wasn't meant to fit in. The premise and purest form of love is unconditional. I often wondered how someone could love someone else that didn't love them back...but in all honesty, it's because that person actually loved them. So when I start thinking about relationships and love in an aspect of what I deserve and what my actions should be to reciprocate a good or bad action done to me, I'm going to stop and remember that that's not what love is actually about. Instead I'm gonna throw my arms open wide and love the amazingness and the flaws that make up and come with that person regardless of what I or they deserve...cuz that's what real love's all about. ;) There's more to this realization but I'll spare your eyeballs and brain for a bit and maybe bring it out in a shower realization part 2. Lol